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Sunday, August 31, 2008

Drug Rehab Program

Bringing up children to be morally good and as a asset to the society is not an easy job. Every parent would want only what is best for their child. However, with so many distractions and widely available sources of entertainment nowadays, the job does not get any simpler.

One of my major fears with regard to my children is that they would meet up with the wrong peer group and thus be influenced into experimenting with drugs and alcohols and such.

A recent drama program touched on how some students in the secondary school fall into wrong company and end up as drug addicts. Such addiction causes many problems as the teen continues to get further tangled in the web leading to petty theft, gang fights and so on.

Fortunately there are institutions that caters to residential drug rehab, alcohol rehab and extended care facility for adults suffering from alcoholism, drug addiction, eating disorders, depression, and other co-occurring disorders.

Cliffside Malibu is located in Los Angeles County north of Zuma Beach. It is a drug treatment center where drug treatment incorporates a variety of clinical components to create a comprehensive and effective addiction treatment program. The components of alcohol and drug rehab include detox, individual therapy, group therapy, depression treatment, and alternative medicine.

At Malibu, private and secluded housing is provided with Oceanside views. Exciting outdoor activities such as horseback riding, surfing and hiking are also arranged and encouraged for the residents to take part and enjoy.

Malibu has incorporated state of the art treatment methods to ensure the maximum recovery of the drug addicts and alcoholics. Furthermore, talented acupuncturists, herbologists, massage therapists and holistic medicine practitioners are also employed for the benefits of the residents in their addiction treatment.

Meticulous selection is made with regards to the doctors, nurses, therapists, personal trainers, massage therapists, chefs and residential advisers. This ensures that only the Best Staff are available for the many kinds of addiction treatments.

There are many other advantages in choosing Malibu for Drug Rehab.
Firstly, they have free counselling available 24 hours a day to help you in your times of need. Luxurious and comfortable accommodations with lots of wonderful recreational activities and Spa treatments such as facials and manicure/pedicures are made available for the residents.

The motto of Malibu is Individual Treatment or Individual Addictions. As such each patient is offered an individual drug rehabilitation plan which maximizes comfort as well as the potential for each individual's success.

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Monday, August 25, 2008

Squash those Tantrums while keeping a Cool head

So why do kids throw tantrums?

Almost every parent would have experienced a "Why doesn't the ground open up and swallow me" kind of situation because of your child's Tantrum!

Unsightly as they might be, tantrums are a normal part of development. For those parents who have escaped from such events so far be forewarned.

Studies show that both boys and girls get them just as frequently and even the most mild tempered child have the occasional tantrum, so don't despair when the tempers kick in.

The two most common reasons are frustration and inability to communicate.

Frustration - Young children are still trying to master their own world. When they experience difficulty accomplishing the task at hand, very often the only way they know how to express themselves is with, you guessed it, a tantrum.

Communication - Children at this age often know more than they can express. Not being able to communicate their needs can be extremely trying and lead to the outbreak of a tantrum.

Ways to Avoid Tantrums

Reward positive behaviour - Many a time a child throws a tantrum as she seeks and wants your attention. To the child, it does not matter whether it is positive or negative, just so as she is able to catch your attention she will continue to scream, whine, cry etc. One way to nip this problem at the bud,is to catch your child when she is doing the right thing and to reward her with your full attention.

Don't Sweat the Small Stuff - Let your children have control when it comes to making smaller decisions. They're often working out their sense of independence and having a choice helps stave off tantrums later. Let junior choose between the blue and green jacket or allow him to choose one item during trips to the supermarket.

Out of sight, out of mind -Keep bones of contention such as an older sibling's fragile plaything or the candy jar out of sight. If your child can't see it, she is less likely to remember it's there.
Avoid Tantrums

Change the environment - When frustration or the lure of an object he can't have gets too strong, take your child outside or simply move to another room.

Sweet Success - Pre-empt unnecessary frustration by choosing age-appropriate tasks and toys. Begin with simpler ones and then move on to more challenging options.

Draw the line - Children who are hungry, tired or stressed are that much more likely to throw tantrums. Postpone that shopping trip or errand till a better time whenever possible.

Teach communication skills - Teach your toddlers simple signs to express themselves such as "I want", "more" or "tired" so that you, the parent can recognise their need and met them thus avoiding or reducing the chance for tantrums. Let kids know they can tell you what their needs are and encourage them to express them clearly.

Help older children practise coping skills - This will not only reduce the incidence of tantrums thrown but it's also empowering. Children will get a chance to decide how they will be treated as a result of their decisions. Say "You have another five minutes of TV time before bed. This is a chance for you to show me how grown up and reasonable you can be, okay?"

Dos and Don'ts when a tantrum occurs

Avoid hitting
Avoid hitting and spanking - Using physical force will only send the message that force and physical assault is an acceptable means of getting things done. Take a deep breath and if talking doesn't work, wait for the storm to blow over.

Never reward a tantrum. Even if your child has calmed down, don't cave in to his demands for the plaything or treat that triggered the tantrum. Doing this will only reinforce the message that the tantrum was effective. Instead, praise your child for calming down.


Moving on. IF your child is in danger of hurting himself, other people or the property around him, take to a quiet, safe place where he can calm down.

Ignorance can be bliss. Continue with the activity at hand. Disregard his behaviour but make sure your child is within sight so you can ensure his safety. Leaving your little one entirely alone could also make him feel as if he's abandoned. So stay within his range of sight.

Quiet time. Have your child go to a room, or chair or a corner that is away from others and whatever ongoing activity. This is a surprisingly powerful tool that doesn't rely on physical punishment.

Provide reassurance. Let junior know that you still love him and give him a hug. (After he has calmed down and is no longer throwing a tantrum). This can go a long way towards boosting your child's self-worth, especially when he might be feeling vulnerable after the display of misbehaviour.

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Saturday, August 16, 2008

Hip maternity clothes for stylish moms-to-be

During my first three pregnancies I didn't need to wear Maternity wear until my last few weeks. Only for my last daughter, I put on quite some weight and had a chance to wear lots of lovely maternity clothes.

After many years, my brother-in-law's wife, Jamila is pregnant again. I'm very pleased for her and hope she will have a wonderful baby and that her pregnancy would be smooth as she is already in her late 30's and there are chances of complication.

Last week, I went out shopping with her for maternity dresses. There are so many styles and designs available nowadays that it took her about 4 hours to decide on a variety of tops, pants and dresses .

However, for those who love to shop for maternity close but would not want to spend the time and effort of going to many different shops, online shopping is another alternative.

Belly dance maternity is an online shop that has many stylish maternity dresses. There is a wide range of tops, bottoms, dresses, nursing, lingerie and active wear as well as Juicy Couture Maternity clothes etc.

Often the dad to be is forgotten. You could gift the father with stylish diaper bags, books about newborns etc.

What I really loved about Belly Dance Maternity is the availability of stylish maternity swimwear and bathing suits. There are many different and wonderful designs and styles available. For active swimmers such as Jamila this would make a wonderful gift.

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Friday, August 1, 2008

Boost your child's Self Esteem

Self-esteem is about how one feels about oneself, and can either be positive or negative.

Self-esteem in young children essentially refers to the degree to which they expect to be accepted and valued by their peers and the significant adults such as their parents and teachers.

Children with positive, healthy self-esteem feel that the people who are important to them accept and care about them. Such children are also able to recognise and accept their own strengths and weaknesses. On the other hand, children with negative self-esteem feel neglected and unappreciated, and are much less confident, if at all.

Why is Self-esteem important?

How we feel about and define ourselves influences our motivations, attitudes, and behaviours. Thus, it is important that we always feel confident and positive about ourselves.

In some cases, low self-esteem can be a symptom of a mental health disorder or emotional disturbance. Experts have also observed and believed that low self-esteem is the underlying cause of many of society's problem today.

A child's self-esteem can affect how he relates to other people. As such, children who feel good about themselves tend to develop positive relationship with others.

As a child grow older and starts to attend school, his self-esteem can have an impact on his academic success too. If he thinks positively of himself ( rather than always thinking he can't do things right) he is more likely to accept setbacks and to preserve, thus do well academically,

Proudly showing off his artwork

Moreover, a child's creativity can also be influenced by his self-esteem. This is because low self-esteemed children are less likely to take the risk involved in being creative than children who have positive self-perceptions.

How can you Boost your child's Self-Esteem?

From young, a child will reach different milestones and experience a sense of accomplishment that bolster self-esteem e.g. learning to roll over or to stand up successfully after repeated failures.

He will at the same time create a self-concept based on interactions with other people. Hence, parental involvement is key to helping him form healthy self-perceptions.

Here are some Tips for Boosting your child's Self-Esteem:

1. Praise Generously, Appropriately and Honestly

Children are very sensitive to parent's words. Constantly look for situations in which your child is doing good jobs, or demonstrate talents or positive character traits, and praise him accordingly. But remember to praise for effort and completion, rather than outcome. Praise honestly too - kids can tell whether something is plain flattery, or sincerely from the heart.

2. Teach Positive Self-Statements
You need to identify your child's incorrect beliefs about himself, then help him set more accurate and realistic standards about himself. For example, if he is struggling with science and you hear him say "I cannot do science, I'm a lousy student", correct him by saying to him "You are a good student and you are doing great in school. Science is just one of the subjects you need to spend more time on."

3. Be Spontaneous and Affectionate
Show your love - Hug your child

There is no such thing as a shy parent! Parents' love is crucial to children's self-esteem. Hug your child often. Tell him you are proud of him. Leave loving messages on the fridge door, in the phone recorder, or in his lunch box.

4. Display your sense of humour!
Laugh at your blunders
Teach your child that life certainly does not always have to be serious; some teasing can be fun too. Show him that you can laugh at yourself for little mistakes and blunders you make.

5. Have Reasonable Expectations

Like you, your child is not perfect! Let him know you accept him for who he is, flaws and all. He will then feel secure and learn to accept his own strength and weaknesses, which in turn enhances his self-esteem.

As is always the rule - and challenge - of good parenting, remember that you need to be your child's role model. Do not be too harsh on yourself or be unrealistic about your abilities and limitations. Be optimistic and nurture your own positive self-esteem instead, so your child can mirror you correctly.

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